How Your Thoughts Can Affect Your Everyday Life

How Your Thoughts Can Affect Your Everyday Life

The Power of Thoughts

Thoughts aren’t real - that’s the very definition of them. But the mental headspace we exist in can shape how we spend our time and what we see as possibilities, affecting our quality of life. 

The average person has over 6,000 thoughts per day. If the vast majority of those are negative or self-defeating, then it can make pursuing your goals, connecting to people around you, staying healthy, and being your best self more challenging than it has to be. 

Thinking About Thoughts

The first step towards escaping from a negative thought quagmire is to create some space between yourself and your thinking. Observing your thoughts can help you see them as cognitive processes and not your reality. 

What does your self-talk sound like? Limiting thoughts aren’t always as easy to catch as “that was stupid” or “everyone here hates me.” Some other examples of thinking that might be holding you back include:

Filtering Out the Positives

If you can’t take a compliment or are always searching for what you could have done better, you may not be saving enough space for rewarding thoughts. Try giving yourself some grace to focus on what you’ve done well today instead of what went wrong. 

Blaming Yourself

If a situation goes wrong and you automatically blame yourself or question what you could have done to avoid it, this is an example of a negative self-assessment. See what happens if you accept that sometimes we have less control over situations than we’d like to believe. 


Seeing everything that happens as part of a chain of events can make it harder to move through negative thoughts with grace. Can you question the assumption that just because one thing went wrong, now everything else will be worse too? 

Avoiding the Gray Area

If your mind is filled with “must,” “should,” or “have to” thoughts, you’re likely seeing things in black and white. Black and white thinking is a common habit, but it can seriously limit your ability to enjoy relationships, experiences, or even feel good about trusting yourself. Most things in life aren’t all good or bad. Allowing space for the gray can be uncomfortable at first, but it can also take some of the mental pressure off. 

Tips to Nurture Positive Thinking

Creating a more positive mindset takes time, patience, and practice. While not always easy, once you embrace positive thinking, the benefits on your mental and physical well-being can be life-changing. 

If you are not sure how to get started, start small with simple changes you can make in your daily routine. Try one of these seven tips to start nurturing positive thinking and enjoying a more peaceful and happier life.

  1. Make room for people and experiences that make you happy.
  2. Listen to music that lifts you up.
  3. Take time to laugh. 
  4. Remember that negative emotions and experiences will pass.  
  5. Rephrase negative self-talk with compassion. 
  6. Carve out 5 minutes a day to meditate or sit with your thoughts without trying to change them.  
  7. Draw or journal about what makes you happy. 

If you still have trouble nurturing positive emotions and thoughts, don’t hesitate to talk to a professional. They will be able to help you with more personalized advice to effectively address your specific concerns. Remember: it’s always okay to ask for help!

The Takeaway

We all spend time with our thoughts. With some practice, anybody can make their minds a more peaceful, accepting place to be. Cultivating a positive headspace doesn't mean ignoring the negative - it just means creating space for the positive and knowing that, like clouds in the sky, both will eventually pass.

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